OCD and confidence: why feeling uncertain doesn’t mean you need to check again

People with OCD often describe a powerful sense of doubt: “What if I’ve missed something?” or “What if I’m not really sure?” That feeling of uncertainty can drive checking, reassurance-seeking and repeated mental reviewing. Recent research has highlighted an interesting pattern in OCD, where people may have lower overall confidence even when they are still able to respond appropriately to the evidence in front of them. In other words, the feeling of uncertainty does not necessarily mean that something is actually wrong or that more checking is needed.

This is where approaches such as Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and Metacognitive Therapy (MCT) can be helpful. ERP involves learning to tolerate uncertainty without carrying out the usual compulsive response, while MCT focuses on the beliefs and thinking processes that keep doubt and threat-monitoring going. 

In my work, the aim is not to help people achieve perfect certainty, but to help them become less governed by the need for it.

OCD thoughts can feel frightening – but what do they actually mean?

How ERP and Metacognitive Therapy can help change your relationship with intrusive thoughts

People with OCD can experience intrusive thoughts, images or impulses that feel deeply upsetting precisely because they seem so out of character. A person may become frightened not only by the thought itself, but by what they think having the thought says about them. Yet unwanted intrusive thoughts are not the same as intentions, wishes or actions.

One of the things that can keep OCD going is the attempt to work out what a thought “really means”, gain certainty about it, or neutralise the anxiety it creates. This can lead to checking, reassurance-seeking, avoidance or repeated mental reviewing. From a Metacognitive Therapy (MCT) perspective, an important part of the problem is not simply the presence of the intrusive thought, but the beliefs we hold about the significance of that thought and the ways we respond to it through worry, monitoring and attempts to control it.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), a well-established CBT treatment for OCD, can also help people change their relationship with intrusive thoughts. By gradually facing feared situations, thoughts or uncertainties while reducing compulsive responses, people can learn that they do not need to neutralise, avoid or gain certainty about every intrusive experience. Over time, the thought can become less important and less powerful.

In my work at Symmetry CBT, I help people experiencing OCD and intrusive thoughts, including thoughts that can feel embarrassing, disturbing or difficult to talk about. Therapy offers a confidential space to understand what is keeping the problem going and to develop a different way of responding, so that intrusive thoughts no longer have to dominate attention or behaviour.

What is remote therapy?

Remote therapy is any kind of therapy where the therapist and the client are not present in the same physical space. In the past, this has most regularly been over the telephone. However, in recent years, with improvements in online connections, this is increasingly resulting in therapy delivered by online video software.

Sarah offers online therapy using two online solutions. Both have secure end-to-end encryption, are GDPR compliant and are designed with the delivery of telehealth in mind.

The first is called Zoom and you will have seen this in action if you have watched any TV News in the past few days as this is the platform used by the UK Government for their remote press briefings.

The second is called VSee and this platform is used by over 1000 telemedicine companies worldwide as well as being the video platform used by NASA for communicating with the International Space Station.

Both of these platforms have associated apps available from the usual app stores for your devices.

Sarah makes use of both because if one has problems, then it is easy to swiftly change over to the other and to continue with the therapy session. Similarly, Sarah has routers from two different high-speed internet providers to ensure that if one is having problems, it is possible to change over to the other.

If you are looking for therapy during these difficult times, please feel free to make contact with Sarah on 07817 223669 to discuss availability.